Update One

As I said in my last posting I am leaving the blog at April 2010. I thought it was rude to just cut off, with out giving you an update on What happened with who.

Stuart.
Is now 16, Student at a local college doing a grounds maintenance course. Bit of a angry lad, he never did have counselling.

Mandy
Is now 18, After spending a lot of time talking with friends, about what happened decided she had already had come to some sort of peace with the loss of her sister. And has not long had news of a happy surprise, that she is going to be a mum in mid 2012. Her and her boyfriend are happy about it.

Shell
now this is a hard one and I know she read this blog.

The hard part for her was realizing she was in denial over how deeply loosing her first child had affected her. She over came what I believe was separation anxiety disorder from home, that held a strong emotional link to Kim.

Shell still shows some small needs. Like in hospital situations she will not go alone or be left alone for short periods of time with more that a door in the way. Which is understandable, considering what happened in a hospital.

She will say that the last paragraph is untrue, and I will probably get a call or text to that affect, when she reads this.

Shell will never truly get over the loss of Kim. No parent can, all you can hope for is a happy peace with it. And she is making very good progress to getting there.

Stephanie
She was the first to have (the kids version of) counselling, provide by the wonderful hope house. She is with the exception of Mandy the most well adjusted, ADHD aside. She shows love for Kim, enjoys the happy memories of her. Due to her problems does not link certain days to Kim, but does pick up on what we as a family give out on, a anniversary day for Kim.

As for her problem, she is now stable on tablets and in Severndale specialist school. That give her the learning and emotional development support she needs.

She is very close to her nan, my mum. And is very caring, so much so that when my mum had a bad fall at home when I went down to do home care, Steph would come with me to help. She is a bright girl and quickly picked up what I was doing, and under my mum supervision helped her in doing tasks.


Now that just leave me. I think that essay can wait for another day.